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Re: The pon farr thread

Postby Escriba » Tue Mar 10, 2009 6:53 pm

Alelou wrote:This may explain why Vulcans are always hooking up with humans once they get enough exposure to them... 8)

Yeah! :lol:

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Escriba wrote:I read I don't know where that the seven years cycle was a planetary thing, in the sense that every (or most) species on Vulcan were in sync to that time gap because every seven years the Sun was farther from the planet (or something like that) and reproduction (or more specifically, the result of reproduction) would have more chances of success.

That's one of the ways people propose foisting a seven year cycle on T'Pol so she can go through Polly Pon'farr with Trip. Canon is silent, though.

Yes, precisely what I was complaining about. They write about the men and that's all. We don't know about females's mating cycle (until Bounty and this, frankly was a very bad episode). Do they ovulate (I guess yes, but...) and if so, how many times? Do they have menstruation (a Vulcan with PMS that's a sight :shock:)? I mean, in sci-fi females tend to... not have anything at all! Oh, sorry, except a very intense sexual appetite on some occasions.
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Re: The pon farr thread

Postby Asso » Tue Mar 10, 2009 7:48 pm

Please, excuse me, Ladies and Gentlemen, but really do you think it's... logical... to debate about a biological absurdity? Take the poetry that there is in this matter (if it exists), and nothing else.
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Re: The pon farr thread

Postby Alelou » Tue Mar 10, 2009 8:03 pm

Ah, but I love a good biological absurdity.
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Re: The pon farr thread

Postby Asso » Tue Mar 10, 2009 8:14 pm

Mhhh... good? 8)
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Re: The pon farr thread

Postby Aquarius » Wed Mar 11, 2009 1:19 am

Alelou wrote:A lot of new people haven't read all the old fic out there already. There are certainly cliches out there. Anyone who's read enough fic knows them by now, and will recognize them quickly when they start spilling out of a new story and probably move along unless there's something particularly compelling going on (or they're truly desperate for ANY TnT fic). But there are new readers too, who may think ooh cool, I never saw that before.

This isn't rocket science, it's fanfic. I just don't see the point of heaping public scorn on other fic writers because they used this plot device or that plot device in a way that is insufficiently different from every other earlier use of that plot device. It must be very inhibiting for newbies to think they'll get jumped on if they accidentally do something the way someone else did. Especially in Star Trek, where there are literally decades of different shows and fanfics already written.


Thanks for that, Alelou. While you can often add a new spin to things, the truth is there really are a finite number of things even an experienced, skilled writer can come up with, especially in a 40-year-old fandom where a particular alien society and the characters that come from it have been a strong object of fascination for many fans. Chances are, some people are going to reach the same conclusions as others, and there are going to be parallels here and there. For myself, I'm not going to jump through all kinds of hoops and try to read every story out there on the subject so I can "be original"; it's ridiculous and even if I tried, I'd never get any writing done because I'd be too busy reading and talking myself out of ideas because, oh no, so-and-so did something similar. When I write and post my story, the result will be because of my vision that I saw in my head, not a reaction to what some other author wrote or didn't write. Even if it ends up being similar to something else someone else wrote, hopefully I'll have told it well enough that people will find it entertaining any way. If not, oh well. :dunno: You can't please everybody, you know?

Kevin--honestly? Most of the cliches I see are universal, they're not just limited to one fandom or another. Oftentimes my dislikes of an NC-17 story aren't because of fandom-specific issues, they're because the author has dubious storytelling skills to begin with and/or hasn't really figured out who their characters are out of bed before throwing themselves the curveball of writing them in bed. But writing is a learning process; we were all guilty of cliches and mistakes at one time, of not doing enough of our homework, and no matter how good you get, there's always room for improvement. But for those who are serious about their hobby to improve, they need a safe environment where they can get honest, constructive feedback, with helpful suggestions for improvement, and people mind their manners. So far, I think people here do a pretty good job of that.

And in terms of the Trek-specific cliches, another thing that is not rocket science is predicting what the cliches are gonna be in a TnT pon farr fic if you've ever been a reader of fic devoted to any other Vulcan in the franchise. Believe me, after some of the fics about Spock or even Sarek and Amanda I've seen, it wasn't hard for me to figure out that there'd probably be a lot of fic where T'Pol beats the living daylights out of Trip, and for no good reason other than reader titillation--it's a concept that's been done to death long before T'Pol was ever thought up. Hey, if that's somebody's thing and that's what they like to read, more power to 'em, you know? Personally, I'm more interested on the impact it has on their relationship than the Tab A/Slot B stuff, or the who tied up whom.

And about that once every seven years thing? Yeah, it's canon, and I'm not trying to argue that. HOWEVER, it might not have always been that way before, and things could've always changed after. As long as the author explains this credibly, who cares? And seriously? Just because a couple of characters have said this, it doesn't necessarily mean it's "true". Not so long ago in my lifetime, masturbation was this big, dark, taboo subject that nobody talked about, except to tell you that if you did it, awful things were going to happen to you. Then as time went on, it sorta became that thing that you take for granted that everybody does it, but nobody would admit to. Now even mainstream magazines like Cosmo have articles on better ways to do it and there are stores devoted to selling hardware to help you do it. Hell, these days I bet women under 40 get more invitations to sex toy parties than they do Tupperware, PartyLite, and Mary Kay combined! So society's attitudes on a taboo subject can change in a relatively short time, and I would not be the least bit surprised if sex between pon farrs was something a lot of Vulcans did, but nobody talked about or admitted to. T'Pol's time was kind of the Dark Ages compared to Spock's; you had melders living in secret, etc. But T'Pol is living in the dawn of change for her people, what with the discovery of the Kir'Shara and all, and she's finding out that a lot of things she believed about her people are not really true--even things about herself. I would find it very credible if an author circumvented the Only Once Every Seven thing by having even that be one of the things that T'Pol and many other Vulcans took for granted to be true but is actually a myth. If they're doing it, nobody is going to admit to it in that atmosphere of repression; no one wants to be known as the village freak, you know?

So there are a lot of possibilities, even if others have had the same idea, it doesn't make them bad ideas. Why make people reinvent the wheel if they don't have to?
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Re: The pon farr thread

Postby kevin » Wed Mar 11, 2009 1:53 am

Aquarius wrote:Kevin--honestly? Most of the cliches I see are universal, they're not just limited to one fandom or another.

Look, you asked for people's opinions. I gave mine about Polly Pon'farr. In my opinion, most authors give Trip an unrealistic amount of injuries, the plot device has been used far too many times as a cause for angst prior to putting them together and authors don't pursue it in a way that's unique. In my opinion, it's a plot device that's been abused and should be avoided. If you're only interested in affirmational opinions, that's fine and I'll keep that in mind.

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Re: The pon farr thread

Postby Aquarius » Wed Mar 11, 2009 3:02 am

You're right, I did ask for opinions. And you made points, and I responded to them. If I came on kind of strong, I apologize; I just felt that maybe you were coming on a little strong, too, in telling people not to even bother trying, because I'm one of the people contemplating trying. I think we agree more than you think. I just feel that these fandom-specific cliches you're speaking of actually more likely fall under that broader umbrella of an author who hasn't got a grasp of good storytelling or compelling character development; that's when trite plot devices rear their ugly heads, when the author doesn't know what else to do to get from point A to point B. Maybe I'd be alright with a fic where T'Pol beat the crap out of Trip if the author told the story well enough that I cared about why she was doing it. This is where an author doing his or her homework on who the characters are and using the situation to develop the characters comes in: what does this situation tell us about them that we couldn't glean in a non-sexual situation? What do they expect/hope for out of the situation, and each other? What do they end up actually getting when it's over?

So no, I'm not simply looking for opinions that agree with mine. Ironically, you and I agree that it isn't about T'Pol beating the crap out of Trip and giving him a whole slew of unrealistic injuries. I also agree that it should be avoided as a cheap plot device when an author doesn't know how to get from point A to point B otherwise. If I write about it, it won't be a "device," it will be for the purpose of answering the question "what was the first one like, and how did it impact their relationship?" And if it's part of a larger story, then something that happens in that scene will somehow be important to that larger story. I just hope that the conversation sticks more to what we think pon farr is or isn't, rather than becoming about fanfic pet peeves, because one of the reasons I opened the discussion was so I could answer the above character development questions for myself by defining what they're going to be dealing with, and hopefully help others do the same for themselves should they choose to approach the subject matter.
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Re: The pon farr thread

Postby evcake » Wed Mar 11, 2009 3:13 am

My favorite take on female pon farr is Distracted's A Hard Day's Night. "Any roughness she showed him was out of eagerness, not malice."
And I'm always up for another author's exploration of the subject. It's kind of cental to the spirit of TS, no?

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Re: The pon farr thread

Postby panyasan » Wed Mar 11, 2009 12:47 pm

My two cents on the subject.
I think that Vulcan society dealt with Pon far by arranging marriages.
In marriage they built their relationship/bond. When the time of Pon farr came, the male triggered the female, they both get the drive and are helping each other through pon farr.
Maybe her cycle starts with his pon farr, so they are both in sink.
Tovuk had four childern that were two years apart, so Vulcans mate outside pon farr and can have childern, but maybe how closer you come to the beginning of pon farr, how higher the chance.

When a society is dealing with pon farr for thousand of years I can not imagine they will finds ways to deal with the expectional occassion that pon farr occurs with no mate around.
First Vulcans can count and have calenders. You know if your time is coming, it's not wise to plan a trip into space without your mate or you make sure you're home when the time is there.
Second, Tuvok is mentioning meditation and visiting the monestary as resolution.

In a lot of episode's and fic's the rare occassion of Pon farr without a mate in a relationship is the central issue, because we seemed to be intrigued by the thought of the logical Vulcan in the heat or it's seems to be entertaining to see T'Pol walking around in her underwear and embarrasing herself by throwing herself to every man around. :vulcan:

Any way, a story is told of using force to have sex, force to have sex most of the times without permission of the second party.
If a human would do that, (I could not help myself, my sex drive was so much that I forced a women to have sex with me) it's called rape. And it's wrong.

My main grip with this kind of pon farr and one thing that still suprises me, is that no one seems to protest against this kind of rape, because it's because of pon farr.
Sex is wonderful in a loving relationship, but forcing some one to have sex, it's the most horrible thing that you can do to another person. That's why I pointed out the uglyness of pon farr as a comment to Alelou's story, which illustrates that.
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Re: The pon farr thread

Postby Aquarius » Wed Mar 11, 2009 1:30 pm

panyasan (and everybody else! :D )--What kind of contingencies do you think they have for people who have no mate? I mean, granted, I know what you're saying about them keeping an eye on the calendar and their own biological cues and such, but sometimes even the best laid plans get mucked up, and you're still going to end up with people here or there who need help. So what about the guy who lost his wife to a tragic illness or accident, and hasn't found another suitable mate yet? Or the lady who's husband was offworld on business, was supposed to be back weeks ago, but some big huge emergency came up and his ship didn't make it back in time? Do we think these people are just expected to die, that Vulcans believe that this is just nature's way of thinning the herd a bit and "oh well, it sucks to be you, sorry about your luck"? Or do we think that there's some kind of singles club or call girls/guys or something for just such an emergency? Or something else?

Lots of food for thought you've given us there, panyasan!

I can certainly understand why the rape angle would bother people...but that's one of the reasons I started the topic, because I have a hard time believing that pon farr always had to be that way, and I like hearing people's thoughts on what's normal in the ideal situation. As for why some like to write the rape stuff and read it, I can only guess that it's because people are intrigued by what happens when you attach personal survival to a character's sexuality. When we humans don't have sex, we just end up a little frustrated; when Vulcans don't have sex during their Time, they can actually die...so I'm thinking the justification for such a storyline may come along with the same kind of gray-area thinking that says stealing is wrong, but is it really so wrong if you're stealing food to feed a child who'd otherwise die of starvation? Not that I'm saying it's the same thing because stealing a loaf of bread or a jar of peanut butter is small potatoes compared to violating another person; I'm just guessing that the angle of, "Well, if he/she didn't do it, he/she was gonna die!" takes the edge off for some people.
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Re: The pon farr thread

Postby Alelou » Wed Mar 11, 2009 2:12 pm

Well, for me this story started out as a sort of comparison/contrast thing. Here's this bond between Trip and T'Pol, as well as this biological compulsion, which poses some real issues for them because they are from two different cultures and biologies. Now let's throw something in there that's a far more extreme example of the same phenomenon. What kind of light will that shine on Trip and T'Pol's relationship?

Of course, once I got into it, it took on a life of its own, and TnT are only part of it, and it's a freakin' novel now. 46,000 words and I still have a fair amount to write. And I'm spending WAY too much time on it. :(
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Re: The pon farr thread

Postby Escriba » Wed Mar 11, 2009 2:47 pm

Aquarius wrote:panyasan (and everybody else! :D )--What kind of contingencies do you think they have for people who have no mate? I mean, granted, I know what you're saying about them keeping an eye on the calendar and their own biological cues and such, but sometimes even the best laid plans get mucked up, and you're still going to end up with people here or there who need help. So what about the guy who lost his wife to a tragic illness or accident, and hasn't found another suitable mate yet? Or the lady who's husband was offworld on business, was supposed to be back weeks ago, but some big huge emergency came up and his ship didn't make it back in time? Do we think these people are just expected to die, that Vulcans believe that this is just nature's way of thinning the herd a bit and "oh well, it sucks to be you, sorry about your luck"? Or do we think that there's some kind of singles club or call girls/guys or something for just such an emergency? Or something else?

I suppose the question is this: is the aforementioned Vulcan near other Vulcans or not? If I understand the pon farr thing correctly, if the other mate is Vulcan it doesn't matter, because s/he can enter the plak tow (the blood fever) and this way it wouldn't be a rape, since s/he really would like? consent? it. The problem would be merely social (better a mate not bonded, how to compensate the sacrifice and such.)

But if the other mate isn't Vulcan, I don't know... Does that "blood fever" pass to non-Vulcans too? Is just telepathic or biological too?

I'm sure all these things are contemplated by Vulcan customs, but I'm not very sure how. It depends on how alien you want Vulcans to look :?

According to Memory-Alpha, the only three ways to end the pon farr are:

1- Taking a mate
2- Participating in a kal-if-fee
3- Intensive meditation

So it's not always a "rape or die" situation.
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Re: The pon farr thread

Postby Linda » Wed Mar 11, 2009 3:07 pm

I have not been following this thread, so I don't know if this aspect was mentioned, but I think in the Voyager series Tuvok said that as Vulcan males get into their elder years the sexual urge at non-pon farr times increases. I haven't seen any canon reference that would say that in older Vulcan males the sexual urge during pon farr gets less intense, but I have seen that mentioned in Star Trek novels which is of course non-canon. So you have some interesting issues to play with in older Vulcan males.
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Re: The pon farr thread

Postby Alelou » Wed Mar 11, 2009 3:17 pm

Interesting thought. The opposite of what happens to most human males (though not all, I'm sure).
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Re: The pon farr thread

Postby Escriba » Wed Mar 11, 2009 3:31 pm

Just one thing I wanted to clarify: when I said the "Blood fever" meant there wasn't a strict rape, what I meant was that "if you consent first to be infected by it" then there is no rape. Because if you didn't consent first it would be like saying that there is no rape just because the victim is unconcious.

Alelou wrote:Interesting thought. The opposite of what happens to most human males (though not all, I'm sure).

So, Vulcans are like wine :)
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