The Whine thread.

[aadarshinah]

*shakes head* I only mentioned the marriage thing because it was an example of one of the "adult" things that I just can't see myself doing. I really don't care if I end up married or not. Though I'm not precluding the posibility, I just can't see it happening. Same with kids. I'm pretty much content to live in my own head. If I sounded like I was giving up, it was unintentional. In my head, I was merely stating a fact.

Addendum, to Alelou's post: Not really. I actually get those remarks a lot. I remember going to see Star Wars: Attack of the Clones with some friends and more than one of them commenting to me afterwards how I reminded them of C-3PO. Choose a movie or TV show with a smiliar charecter and I've probably been refered to the same. I'm a very reserved person, and do tend to correct people's grammar and facts in the the middle of a conversation, even when I'm not involved in it, and usually have my nose in a book. It's just how I am. Maybe it was too much Trek when I was little, or maybe 'cause we moved around a lot. I dunno. Don't really care.

[Alelou]

Sorry. Apparently I was out of line.

Even people who get compared to robots and aliens tend to find a copasetic person out there eventually, if they're the least bit interested in doing so. Since you seem to enjoy Trip and T'Pol's relationship, I would tend to guess (perhaps incorrectly) that you are not totally averse to the idea of romantic love.

[WarpGirl]

I'm not miserable because I'm single, although I want to be married, my happiness doesn't depend on it. All people need love and affection from other people, even those who don't want to get married or love to live alone. The trick is to find out what it is you need to be content with what you can have. As much as I ache to go see Giza (Egypt) it ain't happening, as much as I wanna get pregnant, that'll never happen either.

And a lot of stuff I never wanted I got, crazy family, health problems, no money... The list goes on...

But I know what I need, and life is about finding creative ways to get it. So once you figure out what you need the adventure comes from figuring the rest out. And believe it or not, it works. Then you can fid true joy helping other people you love get what they need too.

[Alelou]

I'm sorry... When exactly did I suggest that anyone would be miserable without marriage or romance?

I just hate to see people who strike me as warm and intelligent and interesting -- in other words, good company -- assume that it's something they're not cut out for.

[WarpGirl]

Nobody did. I was just talking.

[aadarshinah]

You weren't out of line Alelou. Without knowing my insane family, a lot of things we say probably sound insane and out of line. That's probably true for all families, but... *shakes head again*

Not adverse to the idea of romantic love, just think it rarely happens in real life. At least, far less rarely than tv/movies/books/etc would like us to believe.

[panyasan]

Not adverse to the idea of romantic love, just think it rarely happens in real life. At least, far less rarely than tv/movies/books/etc would like us to believe.

I think it's there, but not in the way tv/movies/books protrayed it. In my own life (I have been single until age 29) I wasted a lot of time pining away for that special guy. On the other hand, I said no to several guys who popped the question (on the first date), because I felt I couldn't live with them. I decided that I would be a happy single and stop waiting for mister Right who problably never would show up and enjoy my life. Until I met some one - and we just clicked. No rainbows or firework.

[Alelou]

They asked you to marry them ON THE FIRST DATE???

[panyasan]

They asked you to marry them ON THE FIRST DATE???

Hahaha. Yes. To put it in context: we had the custom in that days that you became friends before you started dating some one. Friends as spent time together in a group, talking and chatting and nothing more. So they knew me. I must confess at that time I was very insecure about myself and having not much good friends, the fact that they did asked, well... great boost for me. They weren't too happy about the no-part.

[WarpGirl]

That's pretty much what happened with my parents. They knew each other 7 years, had 1 date, got married a month later. 6 months later 3 months early, I come screaming into the world. 13 months after that 1&1/2 month early, my sis joined us.

[aadarshinah]

The thing I can't understand about marriages are the weddings. I can understand wanting to have a nice one, but the money some people spend on them!

[WarpGirl]

ABSOLUTELY! I mean it's insanity. My parents eloped, two of my sisters did it for under 2,000 the thing is people get so hung up on the "weddings" they forget that it isn't the marriage part. My cousin had a bash (which I wasn't invited too) that probably cost more than 25000, and for what?

[aadarshinah]

*Shakes head* I certainly don't know. With the money you spend on a wedding that size, you could pay off a good-sized chunck of a house or a car... Goodness, I bought my car new 2 years ago and didn't even pay 25,000 for it... Part of me, though, thinks that the bigger deal you make of a wedding, the less secure you are about the marriage. Unless you're like royalty or something, and then you have a huge wedding because it's expected.

[WarpGirl]

Well 25000 was a low estimate. But it is insane, but then again with people living together before being married all the time now, most people don't need to find a new place. Not that I think that's a great idea. Because oddly enough I've known people who live together for years and as soon as they make it legal they're divorced in a year. How does that make sense? IDK. I've known people who throw huge weddings that are compensating and I've known people who do it just because they think they're entitled to be grandious.

[aadarshinah]

*Shakes head again* However you justify it, 25000 spent on a wedding - a one day extravaganza - is 25000 you don't have for something like, idk, paying off your ajustable rate morgage, or unexpected medical bills, or college loans. I can understand wanting to have a nice time, but having your Disney fairytale wedding doesn't nessicarily mean you'll have a better time than if you'd rented some chairs and gussied up the back yard. For example.

And the dresses. It seems grossly unfair that guys can rent their tuxes but you have to buy wedding dresses and bridesmaid's outfits. I can concievilby see a guy wearing a Tux again, but you really only wear a wedding dress once...