Distracted wrote:Indirect spoilers for book 4 follow....
I can see the similarities that you point out, but Bella is much more of a naiive character than Trip, and Bella's physical state in the 4th book (and the tremendous danger it poses) is not something T'Pol would permit Trip to suffer if she were the responsible party, IMO. When Trip was in a similar condition it wasn't T'Pol's fault and they weren't yet involved. I can't see her deliberately threatening his life that way when there was a way to prevent it. The Edward/Bella situation was an unnecessary danger to add to everything else, and I thought it contrived, introduced just to add more danger. If he loved her so darn much, even if fertility was unlikely between them, don't you think he would have used protection?
Interestingly, this is more like what the case would be if Trip accidentally got T'Pol pregnant because they were under the impression it wasn't even possible to conceive. Would it be as reprehensible? I mean I think it should go without saying that one would assume it's a deadly endeavour for a human to carry a vampire child, as it would be considered for a Vulcan to carry a human child, since it's the first of its kind, different species, etc. All of the same reasons.
But what about a woman who has had her fallopian tubes sealed or tied or whatever and has a boyfriend/husband and what if she had her tubes tied because after her last child she was told that her reproductive system was damaged or something and that having another child could be life threatening -- would you feel the same way about the husband, or the both of them, if they
did not use protection in that scenario and then she became pregnant? Even after her tubes were tied? Or even after her tubes were tied AND he had a vasectomy?
I think it's the same level of impossibility, perhaps even more, for Bella and Edward. For two humans where one has become infertile, there's at least biological compatibility and viable sperm. For a human and a vulcan, there's at least two living, breathing creatures with "similar" biological makeup, though with completely different internal reproductive arrangements (one would assume).
For a human and
a vampire though, we're not even in the world of science anymore, not even in a world where anything can be done with enough time and technology, enough know-how, enough comprehension and manipulation of the laws of science & medicine. This is an area wholly irrational by its very nature, and I think we are to understand that from Edward's perspective, it's never happened before.
PLUS, he fights her tooth and nail every step of the way, he doesn't want to give in and give her what she wants but she begs for it (no joke intended), and they finally do, and after he sees the damage, he absolutely swears off of it. I think he gives in one more time...
I have another plus... I don't think it's solely the man's responsibility to "use protection". Especially not when the woman doesn't say anything. I'm not suggesting "it's her fault" unless she protests, and sure there's a degree of social pressure NOT to object if the man goes right along like there's nothing wrong without protection, but even so, it's not all in his court. She has a responsibility too. It would be different if she had said something and he assured her there was no reason to worry, but she didn't. I don't think anyone's at fault in their situation.