WarpGirl wrote:First they weren't going to find out boy or girl. I just want to talk to him an use a proper NAME!
Totally agree. That's why I was desperate to know the gender....I wanted to name the little kicker and not refer to her as "it". Aureilia was to be Westerly if she was a boy....Abby too. Once we had the 2 girls, we named Abby "Abigail Jane Westerly" to get that Westerly in there. *I* wanted to call her Westerly anyhow, but Lee voted me down. Aur is "Aureilia Jane Zoë". We have so many family names in our much-divorced family, that we didn't want to touch "using family names" with a ten foot pole. So we invented a new faily name that is nowhere in the tree: Jane. Now both girls have it and so we have a fresh, non-divorced tradition.

My take on being surprised by your fetus' junk....well, back in the day only special tests would reveal the gender. But now, ultrasound's the new wave and it's only getting clearer. Nearly everyone gets one. If you're HAVING an ultrasound, and there's gentitalia there STARING everyone in the face why "keep it a secret"? In the case of peeps who say "we want to be surprised!" I say, then why find out at birth? Why not just NOT LOOK for a little while longer, and wait till they're six weeks old (or years) and then look. SURPRISE!

(imho)
(Probably almost) no one nowadays says, "Well doc, I know you suspect I've got twins or triplets in there, but don't look, cause I wanna be surprised on the day!"
I *do* understand not wanting to tell the rest of the world the gender, cause then you get all these silly over the top gender-specific toys and clothing, and you start worrying that the gender is wrong and you get all hormonal over it.